A few weeks ago, I met with Tom, a past client who I hadn’t seen in almost five years. I was about to ask how things had been going when he cut me short, saying, “I guess you heard about me and Gabby.” When I looked confused, he continued, “We split up. After almost forty years of marriage, I couldn’t take the way she was spending my hard earned money or the lifestyle she wanted to live, so, I left.”
I wish that this was an unusual story, but alas, it’s not. You have probably heard the adage: “there are two times in life when one is most likely to get a divorce: in the first five years of marriage and in the first five years of retirement.”
Tom had retired two years before. As he tells it, he saw retirement as a time to get back to his roots. He wanted to grow blueberries on a plot of land, have a large vegetable garden, fish for his food and become more self-sufficient. He had visions of Green Acres – of making a life for himself and Gabby in a small and comfortable earth-friendly home, saving their money and donating to those less fortunate.
However, Gabby had other plans.